1. When in doubt, say nothing.
2. Trust that “gut feeling”. Your subconscious picks up on so much more than you realize.
3. With rare exception, less is almost always more. You can always add in the future, but never subtract from the past.
“I have nothing” can just as easily be turned into “I have nothing to lose.” Frame your life for success.
If don’t have the mind-reading abilities of Mel Gibson, there is still hope for you yet. Here are some universal truths about what women want, and how to go about making it happen.
Security. First and foremost, they want to feel safe, secure and protected. This is what I commonly refer to being a “take-care-of” guy. Women want to feel safe when they are with a man. They want to feel that he can handle himself in any situation. This is why women like confident men, because they feel comfortable and secure around someone who is secure in themselves. Continue reading
1. Don’t put it off when you know you want to. You aren’t doing anyone any favors by staying in a miserable situation. Continue reading
Yes, we all know that these fine eateries can serve up a mean steak, but here are a few must-try specialties that you might not have known about…
The Palm (Downtown): Best Crabcakes. Broiled not fried, and in my opinion the best crab to filler ratio. These light, yet meaty and savory cakes are served with a mango salsa that is absolutely delightful. Continue reading
Once you break up with someone, no matter whose decision it was, you MUST give the relationship some time and space. Things need time to settle. Attempting to go from lovers to friends right away is a most naive proposition. Most have come to this realization after their first few breakups. However, for those who have yet to learn this painful lesson the hard way, by all means spare yourself by heeding my advice here. Continue reading
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Quick Disclaimer: There is a lot more science and psychology behind many of these tips I’m about to give you, but being that I am neither vying for a Pulitzer nor trying to bore you to death, I am going to spare you most of that business and just hit you with it. That work?? Great. Here are some things you can do to instantly lift your mood. They work, and the more the merrier (so to speak). Ehem.
Number one…
1. Force a Smile; Fake a Laugh. As silly as this sounds, it’s been scientifically proven that both smiling and laughter produce mood lifting chemicals in the brain…and so does FAKING it! No joke. This physiological reaction is so deeply engrained in your system that even a fake smile, or fake laughter will trigger the release of serotonin, endorphins along with other mood and health boosting chemicals.
2. Smell the Roses. Yes, certain scents can quickly and easily lift your mood. The smell of fresh roses is a prime example. Splurge and buy yourself a bouquet, it adds to the decor of any room, and you can take a big whiff every time you pass by. Also try: Rosemary, Basil, or Mint. Continue reading
We all know the classic maxim, “Dress for the job you want, not the one you have.” Well think and act like the person you want to be. Who is to tell you you’re wrong??
“Wait, you’re not an outgoing person.”
“I’m being outgoing now, aren’t I?”
The phrase, “That’s not me,” is a logical fallacy. What one is really saying is, “That is not the kind of choice I have made in the past.” Yes, there is a certain value placed on consistency. However, that parochial value is vastly outweighed by the need for utility. We’ve all heard the maxim, “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.” Well in that same vein, it follows, that, “If it IS broke, fix it ya jackass!”
Your only true limitations while on this earth are what you can do physically. You may not be able to slam dunk. Okay, get over it. Everything else is a mental game. With just a few tweaks (doses of reality) regarding the way you perceive yourself and the world around you, it is possible to achieve all that you desire in life. Continue reading
WHY?!? Because when you are confident, busy and fairly aloof, that is when you are your most attractive. This concept has nothing to do with being an a-hole or unapproachable, it simply is a result of your self-assured ability to independent. Think about it, what’s more sexy than a person who is comfortable with themselves and unlike 98% of the population, not desperate. Continue reading
1. People who truly care about you won’t kick you when you’re down. Continue reading
In vino veritas: (in WEE-no WEH-ree-tuhs). “In wine there is truth.” By anonymous.
Sic semper tyrannis!: (sik SEM-per tee-RUN-nees). “Thus always to tyrants!” Exclaimed by John Wilkes Booth right before assassinating President Lincoln.
Cogito ergo sum: (KO-ghee-to ER-go soom). “I think therefore I am.” Rene Descartes, philosopher. Continue reading
The basic principle is that the less you give, affection, praise, material gifts, time etc.- the more weight it has when you do. Think about it. Continue reading
For this, I use employ pole-vaulting metaphor. You have to set standards. There must be a certain level of treatment and respect that you demand from everyone in your life—especially anyone you are dating and so on. If you don’t raise the bar, so to speak, and require to be treated with the utmost care and respect, you won’t get it. Naturally people are lazy and inclined to put in the minimal amount of effort required to attaining a goal. And generally it makes sense, why spend more time and effort than necessary? Afterall, “time is money.” Continue reading
1. Excessive Jealousy/Insecurity. Usually they go hand in hand. You’ll never be able to win with this person, so just don’t even go there.
2. Bad Sniffs. You absolutely must like they way they smell. Yes, even when they’re funky–especially when they’re funky; cuz that’s gonna happen. If you don’t, it’s never gonna work out. True story.
3. Bad Sleeps. Where you just can’t sleep well next to someone. No matter how hard you try the puzzle pieces are not fitting together and you’re left spending your night flopping around like a fish out of water. Let me tell you, this is NOT going to be long-lasting relationship.
4. Extreme Selfishness. The “All About ME!” mentality isn’t going to change. Jump ship!
5. Unneccessary Lying. Lying when there is no conceivable purpose to hide the truth?? Whoa! This person is clearly a psychopath. Get the EFF outta there and if applicable, think about changing your locks.
6. Serial Cheating. Once can be chalked up to human error. Anything more than that is a lifestyle.
*Not in any particular order.
It is the No. 1 fear of Americans. Death is second. As Jerry Seinfeld would say, “…that means, if you are at a funeral, you’d rather be the person in the box than giving the speech.”
Recently I have come to the conclusion that the dating system is flawed. At least for those who swim in the post-grad pool.
Here’s how it used to work: You have classes with someone, run in the same circles, or have some other organic social connection that provides ample interaction and the ability to get to know and befriend that person first; and out of that pre-established compatibility develops romance. Continue reading
Open forum to give thanks & proper credit where due. Even if its a stranger at the grocery store, you never know, they might see it one day… So feel free to boost your karma and throw it out there-
via Thank You Board.
See also: PAYING IT FORWARD. One Random Act of Kindness Per Diem.
Only a few months old, Covell is a very small but intimate wine bar where the bartenders get to know you, figure out what you like, and present you with numerous tasters until you find the wine of your choosing. In the Los Feliz area, and offers about 4 savory french snacks including croque-monsieur, cheese plate, and an antipasto type plate (yes, I realize not French, but don’t recall the French name for it). Excellent service. Their schtick is that you don’t buy a glass until you are satisfied. Plus the bartenders are a wealth of recommendations. Fun, tasty and intoxicating (literally). Two thumbs up.
4628 Hollywood Boulevard
Los Angeles, CA 90027-5408
(323) 660-4400
by Nick Morgan Continue reading
Here is why dating in Los Angeles is so challenging. It is because good-looking people (Gap commercial quality and above) generally fall into one of these categories: Continue reading