Obvious Points That Often Elude Us and Warrant Reminder.

9 Jun

Each of the following points should compel you to say “duh” after reading; but it is quite amazing how we manage to turn a blind eye to the obvious from time to time.


1. People who truly care about you won’t kick you when you’re down.

2. You don’t “make anyone” do anything. Everyone is responsible for their own actions. Similarly, you can’t convince anyone to change. They have to make that decision and take the necessary steps to achieve it. (Hint: 99% of the time they won’t).

3. Be cautious the dangerous habit of making excuses for those who have hurt you. Let them justify their actions. What’s that you say?? They are stressed?  They’re going through some stuff right now?? Newsflash: Who isn’t??? In no way does that ever give a person license to act maliciously. 
    And clearly, clearly, if they neither apologize nor even attempt to explain themselves, you’re dealing with a selfish prick- cut ’em loose!
4. When a person attempting to cheat on their significant other tells you, “I don’t do this…this isn’t me…there’s just something really special about you…you’re different” or the like, know this: Oh yes they do this.  In fact, they do this all the time. This is them. and you are neither special nor different.  Abandon ship!
5. Correspondingly, if it walks like a duck, talks like a duck, swims, sounds, and smells like a duck, but assures you it’s not–my money still says it’s a duck.
6. The people who step up in your time of need are true friends.  Hold onto them tightly. 

7. If while in a relationship you are miserable half the time…This is not the person for you. 

8. Your love and affections are not a future interest that you would ever “owe” to somebody.  Nor they you.

9. Beware a person who lies to you freely. ** Especially about trivial matters.

10. No one is ever too busy or “emotionally unavailable” to pursue what they want.  B.S. lines about being really busy or not ready for a relationship…All that is saying is “I’m too busy for you” and “I’m not ready for a relationship…with you.” When someone wants something (or someone), they go for it. They make the time, necessary changes, leap of faith etc.. So don’t buy those insultingly cliche lines. Just as you would get over your issues to be with someone you really like, so would they.

8 Responses to “Obvious Points That Often Elude Us and Warrant Reminder.”

  1. Anonymous June 9, 2011 at 8:07 pm #

    Some of these are tough to admit but very true.

    • BEBE Joyce June 11, 2011 at 1:13 pm #

      Yeah, I needed to hear No. 4 like a year and a half ago. Haha. Jeez. So right though. It’s just so cliche and yet I fell for it. Just shameful.

      • J.D. St. Michaels January 26, 2014 at 12:05 am #

        Happens to the best of us. Life is a learning experience. We can never truly appreciate the good until we experience the bad. All the best, ~ JD

    • J.D. St. Michaels February 2, 2014 at 11:10 pm #

      That they are. But my hope is that this article might save a few from having to learn these from experience. Don’t get me wrong either, I’m quite the romantic; however, if you learn nothing from failed relationships, what’s the point?

      All the best and always move in a forward direction,

      – JD

  2. CydthaSqd June 1, 2011 at 3:01 pm #

    I should keep this list in my pocket. there are a lot of jerks out there

  3. J.D. St. Michaels December 26, 2010 at 7:32 pm #

    Thank you Catherine…and isn’t that the truth!?

  4. sex December 23, 2010 at 10:53 pm #

    Find and pick some good things from you and it helps me to solve a problem, thanks. – Kris

  5. Catherine December 15, 2010 at 9:54 am #

    Right on. These couldn’t be said any clearer and couldn’t be any truer. Now if we could only follow these points consistently and without question…

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